Often told you are “too sensitive”? To toughen up, to grow a “thicker skin”? I was – more often than I care to remember.
The blaming of empaths begins at an early age so we grow up thinking something is wrong with us. I’m here to tell you nothing whatsoever is wrong with you; never has been. Quite the opposite in fact – you are valuable in the extreme. The world desperately needs empathic people; kindness and care. The first person needing to recognize this is you. Because, as you have likely learned to your cost, no one will take care of you with the consideration you offer others. Rather, you will be blamed for not being “tough”.
In ascribing our world view to others, it comes as a rude shock that the world doesn’t treat us with similar consideration. Our make-up is different and requires deep self care before extending ourselves to others. No-one teaches us these things except experience that wrecks us.
Our energy fields are such that we need the kindness we offer to others; otherwise we can collapse under the strain, ending up exhausted with obscure ailments. Often damage is done long before we learn our own value and take steps accordingly.
The good news is that damage can be undone. Not only is it OK to do the following 10 things, it’s imperative for recovery and ongoing care:
- We need to retreat, finding solace and rejuvenation in solitude and silence; in nature and with animals.
- We need deep rest; long rest.
- We need nutritious food.
- We need music that soothes us, poetry that opens other dimensions.
- We need creative pursuits that nourish our soul.
- We need to wrap our loving arms around ourselves and recognize our own value.
- We need to do this for as long as it takes.
- We need to venture out at our own pace, in our own time and know our limits.
- In order to do all of this, we need to leave damaging situations, set boundaries and realize that our own care is vital – certainly as important as other peoples’ discomfort or judgement. Undertaken with clear intent, the path will clear rapidly and be much easier than you anticipate. It may not be instinctive, but it can be learned.
- We need to realize that the strong emotions we sometimes feel are not necessarily our own; we absorb them from others because of our sensitivity. Distinguish by asking “is this mine?”. If the feeling fades, you’ve picked it up from others and need to flush the remnants away. Go for a walk in the woods with the intent of letting the feeling go. If the feeling lingers, it is yours and simply needs your presence and understanding until it dissipates.
Realizing your own value is key to all of this. In starting these practises, you will slowly nourish the self respect and care that was your birthright. Once you do, the world will respond to your newfound inner strength. Life will become easier and the world will benefit from your gifts. A tiny mayflower hidden beneath greenery is every bit as beautiful as a showy poppy and its scent is heavenly.
YOU are that mayflower.
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