What creates or destroys the sense of belonging? Brené Brown sees this sense as our most fundamental need and value. (A tip: start the video at about minute 3:10 to skip to the heart of the message.) This powerful talk leads me into the heart of how I see clients turn from struggle to thriving.
In my practice, wounds reveal the damage Brown speaks about. During the course of treatment, nurturing a sense of belonging is a basic step to healing self-worth. Another key element Brown speaks about is the importance of being “authentic”. The two go hand in hand.
Being authentic, or “real”, without pretence, offers the possibility of connection, a place where worthiness can grow. It is trustworthy, believable, secure. Tender new growth needs these qualities. That connection then fosters a sense of belonging. Together, my clients and I anchor these roots and nurture them into thriving and worthiness.
In the following two videos by Tara Brach, you will find a strong sense of authenticity. You’ll pick up her realness. She gives helpful steps to finding your own sense of worthiness and ways to work with judgmental thoughts.
Most important for a therapist , these videos also reveal her kindness. To be a safe container for the vulnerability of shame and fear takes steady, reliable kindness. To hold this space for you, is both my pledge and my honour.
Adding my treatments to Tara Brach’s practises, you can turn around your inner struggles in about half the time and lessen your chances of falling back. It’s a good insurance policy.
If you have any questions or reactions to these videos, please write them in the comment section. I’d love to hear from you and will get back to you soon.
Oh – and please share this with friends – you never know who might be needing this right now. It was because a friend shared Tara Brach’s videos that I was able to share them with you. 🙂